Dear Ann, I know this might sound a bit stupid but I was masturbating in my sitting room while watching a blue movie and I didn't see my mates coming up the driveway and they seen me masturbating. Now they are giving me awful stick over it. What do you think I should do about it? Please help me on this one. 

Dear self abused, it is no wonder your friends are giving you a hard time, you're a degenerate. The only advice I can give you is to invest in a set of curtains.

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Dear Ann ,I have an intimate problem! When I try and relax during sex I don't seem to be able to do it! I do try but I get really tense and expect it to hurt so much! I do try and relax but that is all I can think about it and then it does hurt! It is not my partners fault as he does wait and does arouse me! But it doesn't help I still just can't be relaxed! I have had sex with someone else and that took time but I still couldn't relax but he knew what he was doing! My partner doesn't which doesn't help although I do I just can't relax enough and we end up by just giving him oral sex which he enjoys but I want to give him other pleasure as well as having the intimacy we should share together! Do you have any ideas what we could try as I really want to have proper sex I just need to be able to relax more and none of it is my partners fault!

Dear tense, I understand that none of it is your partners fault but you should try telling him what you just told me. So that he can try to make you feel more at ease. A problem like this is very common and all it takes is some time and patients. Tell your boyfriend that you want full sex but that he has to take it slowly with you. tell him not to force it or it will only hurt. Try not to let him get to used to oral sex or he might not want to go to full sex!

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I am 21 and going out with an 18 y/o girl. I am crazy about and she feels the same about me. She is a virgin and I am not but she wants to move the relationship on a level, but not to sex. She has suggested oral which sounds nice, but I have no idea on how to perform oral sex on a girl. And I sure don't want to screw things up over something like that. What to do???

Dear Ohh dear, If your girlfriend cares about you she will not get too angry if you are not an oral sex expert on your first try. No one is. Basically all you have to do is give her passionate kisses in her private area. You should be able to judge how well you are doing by the way your girlfriend is reacting to you.